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Learning How to be a Better Ally

Disclaimers:

1. I am not an expert on any of the matters I am writing about below. I am in the process of learning, listening, unpacking my bias and my privilege. This is about my thoughts, feelings, and what I am learning.

2. My privilege as a cis-hetero WHITE middle-class lady is not lost on me. I fully understand that I will never know what it is like to be black or another POC. I wouldn't dare critique, or really, try to even understand that experience and all the feelings that come with it.

3. I'm not writing this to be showy, or performative in my ally-ship. Writing helps me process what I am feeling. I do not expect a pat on the back or a reward for any of the work I have done and am doing.

4. This might take the form of a stream of consciousness or a free form poem. I don't really know. I just need to get some words out.


Recent posts

Grammar Mistakes The Make Your Argument Invalid; Part Two

Clearly, the internet has learned nothing. And actually, neither have I, because despite knowing that doing so will wildly frustrate and enrage me, I continue to read the comments. I know, I know. I'm a glutton for punishment. But h o n e s t l y. I cannot help it. Those capable of presenting an argument that is cohesive and well put are interesting to hear from; don't mistake me, I am capable of listening to opinions that differ from my own. But, if they are not well articulated, and rife with errors, it is proof that the author is at best unreliable, and at worst illiterate.

Now, before we dive into part two, make sure familiarize yourself with part one. In it, I roundhouse kick bad grammar in the face, highlighting such common mistakes as mixing up you're & your, the conundrum that is "alot" (which, spoiler alert is not a word), unnecessary apostrophes, etc. It became clear after that post, that a part two is in order. Y'all have a lot (see what I did t…

Savings Tips that Saved Me

My dear readers! I hope you are well. Sorry I've been somewhat MIA. This social distancing thing is hard. As an extrovert, I'm struggling. But, I'm managing and I need to remember that writing helps me tremendously.

I debated writing about this topic, because I recognize that so many folks are struggling financially right now. I'm very fortunate to still be working full time from home, we're okay. I've even been able to donate to some people and causes I care about which is very rewarding. Most importantly, we have savings. Granted, the majority of that is savings for our house but I've got an emergency fund that I am grateful for. I went from a pretty bleak financial place 3 years ago to a much much more stable situation. Hell, ya girl is even investing! I thought it would be worthwhile to share some tips that helped me build a cushion and invest in future Maria. If you're unable to take these tips now, save them for a time when things are a bit more s…

Skin Care in the Time of Corona

Real talk: quarantine is hard. I am not cut out for social distancing. Ya girl likes hugs. And actual faces. Corona can fuck right off. But, in order to keep my sanity, I'm trying to find silver linings. And I'm baking a lot (check out my last post for some of my favorite recipes), which is probably not the greatest for my waistline. Or my skin. All that fat and sugar will wreak havoc on my skin if I am not careful. And quarantine is the perfect time to start or adjust your skin care routine. I thought I'd share with you my routine and some tips for keeping your skin in good shape.

First and foremost, if you do nothing else that I share with you, I implore you: drink. water.  I know, I know, the whole "outer beauty starts from within" seems very cliche, but where your skin (and your overall health) is concerned, it is true. There are lots of skin types: oily, dry, combination, etc. etc. and external care varies, but no matter your type, hydration is important. He…

3 of My Favorite Things to Bake- From Scratch!

First of all, I hope everyone is healthy and well, both physically and mentally. It's wild that a month ago, I wrote a post about life on the road, then a few weeks later, I wrote about working from home. And here we are, social distancing and adjusting to this new normal.

A big shout-out to my Triple M Facebook group- thank you for joining and continuing the conversation about this blog. You voted, I heard you. Keep reading!

One of the ways I am coping with this whole situation is by baking. I've always loved baking; I get it from both parents. But it has given me such comfort in the last few weeks. Something about the methodical gathering and preparation of ingredients, the cleaning up, and enjoying the finished product just makes everything better for a little while. I even have had the chance to share some of the spoils with people, ding-dong-ditch style with doorstep delivery! The sharing is really the best part.

Since I cannot actually share the baked goods with all of y…

Products I Bought From Ads (Yes, really!)

These days, you cannot scroll through Instagram or listen to a podcast without hearing ads. I mean, if you're a fan of the Bachelor franchise like I am, then you know that the only post-Bachelor career trajectory is Instagram Influencer. I'm not shitting on that as a way to make money: do you and collect your paychecks! Hell, if I could get paid to try products and talk about them on social media, I would totally do it (you hear that, companies?). Some people also hate the ads in their favorite podcasts but podcasts are a lot of work, so I'm all about them collecting money however they can so I can keep listening to my favorite episodes. All of this is to say, that for a long time I was skeptical of anything I heard or saw in one of those ads. Until I wasn't.

     Over the past couple of years in an attempt to save money, I finally tried some products and I want to share my favorites with you. All of what I am about to show you gets delivered to my mailbox; it see…

5 Work From Home Tips for Surviving Social Distancing

Where to even begin? It seems like day by day-hell, hour by hour, there are more closings, updates and articles about Covid-19. It's almost hard to keep up. As you can tell from my last post, I, an extroverted people-lover is struggling hard with a social distancing situation. I feel slightly useless. Normally March is my busy season; it's why I wrote my travel hacks post. But, this isn't the first time I'm working from home. In fact, for my job, I work from home unless I am on the road. So, for the last 2.5 years, I've been a remote employee.

In my quest to feel less useless and restless when traditional work hours are done, I thought I'd share some working from home tips with those of you for whom it may be new. I hope they help you feel motivated and productive.

Set Up a Home Office Space 

This is a crucial piece to start with. I keep seeing things circulate like "working from couch" which is technically do-able but may not help with productivity. I…